This talk will build on the primer given in April.
The main concepts discussed then will be reviewed and a few new
ones introduced. However, most of the talk will consider in more breadth
and depth how understanding the processes and experience of memory,
especially memory for trauma, facilitates empathy, forbearance,
forgiveness, and healing—both for ourselves and for others.
This talk is a
little different from our usual OSL talks that focus on response to
illness; thisinstead is more about prevention
of negative outcomes. Understanding memory, in generaland memory for trauma, in particular, can help us develop empathy
for others—and forourselves. Empathy, in
turn, increases forbearance and forgiveness. In contrast,misunderstandings about memory can cause conflict and pain. So
having a soundunderstanding of memory is like
having a psychological vitamin: something that helps promotewell-being and healing before problems develop.
One of the miraculous capacities God
has given us is the ability to remember, whether it be the events of our
lives, facts we need to know, or what muscles to activate so that we can
stand without toppling over. The processes involved in memory are
extraordinarily complex and these complexities come into sharp focus
when we consider memory for trauma. In the last two decades this topic
has been so contentious it has been called the Memory War.
will equip you to understand the curious characteristics of our own and
others’ traumatic memories so that we can support one another and
navigate some of the difficult circumstances that can arise when
people’s memories differ.
Ask 10 people what it means to
forgive and you will get 10 different answers, some of which may
surprise, even shock you. There are many ways to forgive—many
forms or “types” of forgiveness—but not all bring healing.
This talk builds on Dr. Melody Stancil’s October 2016
teleconference in which she taught how forgiveness can lead to
better physical, mental, and spiritual health.
Dr. Kathy Belicki is professor Emeritus at Brock
University, long-standing OSL member, co-founder of the Brock
Forgiveness Research Group, was co-planner and host of the
Comfort and Hope conferences.
One of her research priorities was
to identify different forms of forgiveness, and to study
how these relate to emotions and quality of relationships. She
has found that certain forms of forgiveness have a positive
impact, while others have no effect or even a negative impact.
It is the forms of forgiveness that are most similar to the
forgiveness Jesus teaches that have the positive outcomes that
translate to better health in body, mind, and soul.
In this teleconference, Kathy
talks about the different ways that people forgive and will
compare each of these to Jesus’ teaching. She will then offer
practical advice on how to forgive the way Jesus forgives.
spends her days writing and doing public speaking